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If
you caught your best friend's spouse cheating on him/her, would you tell your friend? I think I would. I
can't really say until I'm put into a position like that.
Shanna, 16
Cardiff ENGLAND
First, I'd have to be absolutely sure that
there wasn't an innocent explanation for what I saw. Then, I'd probably confront the
spouse and offer the opportunity for that person to tell my friend first. After that, it
might depend on whether I thought my friend would rather know or not.
Jane, 60
West Linn, OR
USA
Yes! Of course I would, I couldn't live with
myself any other way. And if my friend ever found out I had kept something like that from
her she would be SO furious and probably wouldn't want to be my friend anymore. At least
if I was honest I wouldn't be contributing to the dishonesty of their relationship.
Although, I would want to talk to her spouse first because I wouldn't want to make
accusations without knowing for sure.
Dianne, 16
Ontario CANADA
Really depends on the situation. But
I would probably talk to the cheating spouse and let them know I know and try to convince
them that the best recourse is to come clean and be
honest. I could see myself eventually telling the friend. Then again, if it didn't impact
me directly I probably wouldn't say anything. All depends on who the people are and what
is going on.
Felicia, 35
Lowell, MA
USA
No, I wouldn't. I did that once when I was
younger, and when my friend and her husband got back together, she stopped speaking to me.
Another time I simply agreed with my friend when she said her husband was a rat and when
they kissed and madeup, I found that I had lost a friend.
Reba, 51
Rockville, MD
USA
Such a tricky situation! I think I would
first go to the cheating spouse and offer him/her an opportunity to do the right thing and
go to my best friend with a full confession. If this best friend of mine were truly a best
friend, I would think they could eventually get beyond the fact that I somehow got trapped
between a rock and a hard place and felt I did the only thing I could do in such a
situation.
Fisch, 45
Preston, CT
USA
Actually, I would probably expect my
friend's spouse to tell her himself. But...I would tell him that if he didn't tell
her, I would. I don't think anyone should be cheated on-you should respect people more
than that.
Angela, 16
Bella Vista, AR USA
That's a tough one. I think if my
friend suspected, I'd tell them to follow their
instincts. But I guess it would have to come down to individual circumstances.
Janet, 42
E. Brunswick, NJ USA
I hope I would! Although, come to think of
it, my best friend is my boyfriend, and he doesn't have a spouse that I know of, and I
sure wouldn't cheat on him. But if my best female friend's spouse cheated on her, he'd be
in for it. I really doubt that would ever happen, though. I REALLY doubt it.
Karen, 21
Marshalltown/Ames, IA USA
"Caught" my best friend's spouse
"cheating"? I'm uncomfortable with the entrapment that question suggests. In any
case, I don't feel this is a situation that you can make rigid rules about in the
abstract.
Jill, 60
Saylorsburg, PA USA
yup. unless it was with me, i guess.
A-Dog, 18
McMinnville, OR USA
Yes, and I've done it before...the girl
thought I was just trying to bed her mate.
Melodi, 19
Gahanna, OH
USA
Yes, I would. I'm sure it would
relieve some surprises later on of she new before he knew she did. She needs to be
informed ASAP.
Stephanie, 25
TX USA
yes!
Alice, 21
Winchester UK
I think I would confront the spouse first.
Most people know, somewhere in their heart, that they're being cheated on, and if they
haven't confronted it themselves, it may be because they aren't ready to deal with it. On
the other hand, who's to say that there is cheating going on? I personally am in an open,
polyamorous relationship, so it is quite possible for a friend, coworker or acquaintance
to see my significant other out with someone else.
Sapphire, 31
Ft. Lauderdale, FL USA
I would talk to the spouse and find out what
the story was. Then I'd urge him to talk to his wife and let him know that I'd tell his
wife if he didn't. I'd bide my time if I heard nothing from my friend after a few weeks, I
think I'd tell her.
Laura, 36
Lowell, MA
USA
To quote the most electrifying man in Sports
Entertainment, The Rock, I would simply know my role, and shut my mouth.
Frodo
age unknown, parts unknown
You're damned right I would. Or maybe it
would be more like dragging the spouse to him/her by the ear and making them at least
break up, if not tell them why.
Firelady, 23
Dallas, TX
USA
Hell yes. If I didn,t i wouldnt be a real
friend.
Talia, 23
Wilton, CT
USA
Definitely. If my man was cheating on me and
my friend knew, I would want them to tell me. I think I would deserve to know, so that I
would be able to decide what I wanted to do about it. And I would want my best friend to
have that same oppurtunity.
Dianne, 16
Ontario CANADA
Hard to tell now. That's an answer I could
only make when the time actually came.
Tracy, 24
Ocean City, NJ USA
Well,
that depends on whether or not they had an open relationship, but knowing me, I'd mention
it either way.
Eric, 19
Beverly Hills, CA USA
Well, I should think that if my best friend
were married I would tell her--as it is now, she's just involved in a real loose, open
relationship where both her and him have other dating partners. If she were married,
though, I would try to tell her only after I was ABSOLUTELY certain and knew I wasn't just
jumping to conclusions.
Johanna, 18
OK USA
Of course
I would tell my friend because friends always need to be honest with each other. I
probably wouldnt tell her if I didn't know her very well but if she was my best friend I
would.
Heather, 15
TX USA
Right now
my best friend is a guy who I have the biggest crush on. And we would be together if it
wasn't for distance. and for the fact he currently has a girlfriend. Like I always tell
him he deserves the best, and she better give it to him. So if she cheated on him...Yes I
would tell him. Not for personal gain, but because he doesn't deserve that kind of
treatment.
Anjel, 20
Most definitely.
I tell her everything. Even if I wanted to, I couldn't keep it from her, because we live
together. Fortunately she seems to have a much better track record with finding worthwhile
men than I do, so it probably will never come up.
K. Lampe, 20
IA USA
Of
course! Wouldn't you want someone to do the same for you?
Lisa J., 22
TN USA
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