December 1, 2003





How often is your behavior modified by the knowledge that you are an example to others?

Not very often at all. I try to act respectfully to all people in all situations. Unless I'm arguing with my husband. Then all bets are off.

Laura, 38
Lowell, MA USA

At the moment, I don't think anyone considers me a role model. I modify my behavior because I have to live with myself and my conscience is most observant of my behavior.

Jill, 61
Saylorsburg, PA USA

Quite often. I am, for example, conscious of the way in which I speak when I am around my grandchildren.

Jane, 63
West Linn, OR USA

Oh, not all that often. There aren't that many people who look up to me, and I'm not all that bad to look up to anyway. I'm sarcastic and selfish and a picky eater, but I'm a pretty good person.

Karen, 24
Ames, IA USA

As I work with youth on a daily basis, I would say quite often.

Ryan, 29
Riedlingen GERMANY

I find that I sometimes need to temper my more radical ideas when working in a very public environment. I am conscious of presenting a professional persona at work that is always at odds with my desire to be just me and I try to put forth a good example to my young "nieces".

Felicia, 37
Lowell, MA USA

Unlike my younger years, I keep myself in check much of the time now. Being a parent probably had a lot to do with that. The toughest thing for me was curbing my tongue when I'm totally upset or angry with something or someone ~ all in all, I do an okay job of it.

Fisch, 47
Preston, CT USA

Before I was married with step-children, my behavior was very rarely modified because I was worried about how others saw me or viewed my actions. Now, however, my kids are a huge influence in how I act and react. I would say my behavior is at least affected almost every day... not to a very large degree, but enough for me to be aware of it.

Doug2, 30
Kansas City, KS USA

my behavior is constantly modified because i want to set an example. but not one about being all goody and stuff. just a simple common sensed example. if people used their common sense they wouldnt be in most of the situations they are in. i am here to show people that they can restrain themselves from stupidity. but i guess i am not really setting that example really
because i have no desire to do the idiotic and so called fun things that people tend to do. my common sense gets to me before the desire does because i watch other people.

other people are my examples. they show me the horrible things a person can go through. they set the examples for what i should not do.

then i reciprocate and show the examples of what they should do or should have done. it just comes naturally and it does irritate people but its not like i rub it in their face.

the people around me expect me to do or to already have done the things that they have done. they get pissed and disappointed when they find out that i havent and will not.

some say that they wish they would have been like me and thought about things first. i usually say that i learned what not to do from other people so maybe they went through it for the sake of saving me. maybe they didnt have an example like they were for me. so technically my behavior is modified automatically before i get a chance to do it myself.

i do manually modify my speech when i am around certain people especially children. i am just too blunt.

ingrid, 22
Stockton, CA USA

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