February 23, 2003
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What was it like when you have met up with an old love?

This has happened to me on two occasions. Once it was just very uncomfortable and the other time it was kinda neat... though maybe a little bittersweet.

Fisch, 47
Preston, CT USA

I haven't yet. About 8 years ago one of my sisters sent me the wedding announcement of the man I didn't marry. It was very disconcerting. I will see my first love this summer, though, at my high school reunion. I'll be happy to see him.

Laura, 38
Lowell, MA USA

I remember feeling faint, but determined to keep my head up. My high school boyfriend and I broke up in November and he was at my high school in June to take pictures at my graduation. I hadn't seen him in all that time and it was like getting punched. No, like going over a bump on a roller coaster.

Cindy, 41
VA USA

Usually a little weird, but I've usually been friends with my ex's for a while once we'd been apart for a few months. those friendships never last, tho.

A-Dog, 20
Eugene, OR USA

Meeting an old love depends on how I parted with that old love. I prefer to avoid occasions of bitterness and memories of betrayal.

Jill, 61
Saylorsburg, PA USA

Whenever I meet up with my old love, Pete, we laugh and joke and behave pretty much as we did when we were an item. (except for the romantic and intimate stuff) We were best friends as well as girlfriend/boyfriend...and even though I don't see him all that often, I'd say we're still pretty
good friends. In fact, we've made plans to attend our 20'th high school reunion together this coming summer! All my other old loves...not that there are all that many...I just try to avoid.

Tam

I had that experience last summer, when a man I'd dated many years ago came to visit me. We'd met casually off and on over the years, mostly with our families. I found that I still enjoyed his quick mind and view of the world, but by the time his visit ended, I was also vividly reminded of the reasons we had broken up originally. He remains as a valued friend.

Jane, 63
West Linn, OR USA

I've moved so often that I've seldom met up with ANYONE I used to know, including "old loves."

Reba, 57
Gaithersburg, MD USA

I've never met any of my old flames. I only had two serious loves, one in high school and one in college, before I met my husband. They're far away, if they're still alive.

Judy, 62
Easton, KS USA

*shrug* I don't really know how to respond to that. It depends on the definition of love, I guess. I
don't think I have ever accidentally run into a guy who I was formerly in love with. I have had
calls/emails from them, but I haven't actually run into them. I have seen guys I previously had crushes on or had short relationships with, and that hasn't been any big deal. I think I'm on good terms with all of the guys who meet those qualifications--all of the ones I want to be on good terms with, anyway. Then there's "old love" in the sense of guys I have loved, but not necessarily been in love with. That's a little weirder. For instance, I still have plenty of warm feelings for a guy I've known since I was 5. But I don't want my husband (or the guy himself) to get the wrong idea about that, because I don't want any kind of romantic relationship with him. And I don't even know the guy that well--I've only seen him about 10 or 20 times since 8th grade. But still, I care about him.

Karen, 23
Ames, IA USA

Awkward.

Stephanie, 25
TX USA

He had a new girl that looked exactly like me and had the same name (Keri) -so bizzaro!

Keri-Jade, 23
Brampton, Ontario CANADA

Just like I was in high school! I didn't know what to do, so I ran into the bathroom and called my sister. How old am I? I did finally come out and acted like the adult I am supposed to be.

Karen, 23
Ames, IA USA

It's kind of weird, all the old feelings surface and I get flustered.

Janet, 45
E. Brunswick, NJ USA


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