February 20, 2004





Is constructive criticism always helpful?

If it's truly constructive, then yes, I think it is helpful.

Laura, 39
Lowell, MA USA

Only if it is done in a way that does not put you on the defensive. You need to be responsive to the criticism to have any impact.

Janet, 46
E. Brunswick, NJ USA

No. The spirit in which it is given can affect the spirit in which it is taken. The recipient of the
advice may not listen to the advice, rendering it useless.

Cathie, 54
Novi, MI USA

Constructive criticism is only helpful when the person who is receiving it is in a receptive mood.

Jane. 63
West Linn, OR USA

It depends on the way the criticism is given.

Aly, 17
Cardiff UK

I would not say it is always helpful.

Ryan, 29
Riedlingen GERMANY

No, some times it just hurts. Remember that saying, If you cannot say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

KarenNJ, 45
Milltown, NJ USA

no, because sometimes it's given to intentionally be spiteful and mean

Melodi, 19
Gahanna, OH USA

I don't know. As for me, sometimes I get hypersensitive to criticism and any criticism, constructive or not, upsets me and causes me to brood more over the criticism than the subject I was criticized about.


Well, ultimately, maybe, but at the time, not necessarily so. For example, when my brother told me I was turning into King Kong Bundy (this was shortly after my Grandfather and my beloved ex-beagle Sarge passed away...very close to each other...and I ate because I was depressed. When my brother said that, it really made me mad...because it came from him...there is no mortal I worship more than him...within several months, I lost 20+ pounds, and reached my ideal
weight...so, ultimately, it was a good thing.

Frodo, 32
The Shire

It is by definition.

Alias Irrelevante

No. Sometimes you just want others to participate in your delusions.

Felicia, 38
Lowell, MA USA

Always is a big word... almost always yes - I can't think of any particular situations which wouldn't be helpful right now, but I suppose sometimes it is better just to leave people to figure out for themselves that they're making a big mistake, so that they can learn from it. Personally I'm not affraid to ask for constructive criticism, but I would be upset if I was given ...
well - unconstructive criticism I suppose. Just told that something was rubbish, without specific
suggestsions of how it could be improved.

Alice, 23
Wincehster UK

Among people of good will in and ideal world, Constructive Criticism is always meant to be helpful and always taken with appreciation. This world is not ideal.

Jill, 61
Saylorsburg, PA USA


Karen, 23
Ames, IA USA

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