January 21, 2001    
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Is abstaining still the safest "sex"?

Absolutely, but in reality who does that? In reality birth control and a condom are the way to go.

Maggie, 20
Sandwich
, IL   USA

Pretty hard to catch a nasty STD or get pregnant without having sex. Then again is it really "safe" for your pyche or emotional well being.  It certainly isn't safe for the continuation of homo sapiens.

Felicia, 34
Lowell
, MA   USA

Well, yeah, but who really wants to abstain? And, you know, if one out of every four women is sexually assaulted, a chick who's abstaining has a not-all-that-low chance of having her abstinence taken away from her. Wait a minute, abstinence isn't sex at all. Even in quotes.

Karen, 21
Marshelltown/Ames
, IA  USA

Not completely. I really wish I could remember the study but I did read somewhere that masturbation fights prostate cancer. Also I've seen plenty of evidence that absolute abstinence leads to mental illness...or at least I suspect I have.

Alias Irrelevante

Safest, yes. Acceptable, to most people, no.

Jane, 60
West Linn
, OR   USA

Hmm, well, I can tell you right now that I know people who haven't had sex yet, but have done other things... and they're still only 13. I don't know about everyone else but I think that's wrong @ that age...

Jeremy, 13
Highlands Ranch
, CO  USA

Of course it is, if you don't have sex there isn't any chance of getting pregnant or AIDS & other STDs (unless you share needles of course)

Melodi, 19
Hlliard
, OH   USA

Nowadays, yes. YOu might as well walk in the middle of a freeway if you think that sex is safe now with any kind of protection available.

Stephanie, 25
TX  USA

Yes abstaining is the best way to avoid getting sexual diseases and it is also the moral thing to do.

Marci, 55
Diamond
, OH   USA

Yes, of course. Abstaining from anything would be the safest way to avoid ill-gotten side effects. However, I don't think it's realistic. There are many ways to realistically take precautions against transmittable diseases or unwanted pregnancy. Wise folks use them.

Fisch, 45
Preston
, CT   USA

Abstinence is the best way to avoid a sexually transmitted disease or an unwanted pregancy - but abstinence isn't sex. You can have a lot of fun without engaging in intercourse - but that's not the same as having intercourse. If you are having sex, the best way to stay safe is to have just one partner and to have both yourself and your partner checked out early in the relationship. (To be *really* safe, combine monogamy

etoile, 20
Washington
, DC  USA

Abstaining will always be the safest sex. Cant get much safer then  that!

Talia, 23
Wilton
, CT   USA

Of course, whats safer than not having sex at all?

Dianne, 16
Oshawa, Ontario  CANADA

In terms of risk of contracting disease, technically yes. But, this question is like asking if water is the safest liqueur, so...

Kim, 30
New York
, NY   USA

Of course it is, abstaining will always be the safest.I commend all those who abstain until marriage, or choose not to have sex at all.

Adrianne, 15
FL  USA

Yes.

Reba, 51
Rockville
, MD   USA

Yes. Abstaining not only keeps you from getting diseases or from getting pregnant, but keeps you sane. That's my opinion. I didn't listen when my mother told me that having sex before marriage was bad for you. Now I know why she told me that, and I now know what she meant.

Lisa J., 22
TN   USA

Since when is abstaining considered to be sex? It may be safer, but it's not nearly as much fun! Just do the condom/diaphragm thing. No side effects like the pill or IUD and people respect you for it.

A-Dog, 18
McMinnville
, OR  USA

Unless we're talking about abstaining from something OTHER than sex, abstaining isn't "sex" at all, even in quotes. That said, yes, it's safest, but I don't know of anybody who TRULY wants to abstain.

Karen, 21
Marshelltown/Ames
, IA  USA

Sounds like a safe deal to me.

Janet, 42
E. Brunswick
, NJ  USA

oh yeah baby. . .

mothmc, 36
Los Angeles
, CA  USA

yes

Firelady, 23
Dallas
, TX   USA

Absolutely. What's safer sex than not having sex?

Angela, 16
Aiken
, SC    USA

Yes, it most definitely is the only safe sex. All other forms of contraception are imperfect. They can only be referred to as safer sex, because while they aren't 100% safe, their use is still safer than not using any type of protection. The only way to be completely sure that you won't contract a sexually transmitted illness is to not have sex at all.

Eric, 18
Beverly Hills
, CA USA

of course. ..

mothmc, 36
Los Angeles
, CA  USA

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