Easton, KS USA He already is. Karen, 22
Ames, IA USA I'd like my spouse to be in the same intelligence range as I am, since that vastly simplifies communication. As for more attractive, that is several items down the list, after kindness, integrity, and other intangibles. Jane, 62
West Linn, OR USA It would be Ok if he was a bit smarter and more attractive than me, but not too much. Then I think I would be insecure. Janet, 44
E. Brunswick, NJ USA Looks have never really mattered that much to me, but I don't know if I could bear to be around someone smarter than me for the rest of my life. Intelligence is way important, but I don't want someone who rubs it in my face. Being able to have an intelligent conversation with my partner is probably the most important thing. Intelligence is sexy. And if you're smart, I know you won't walk out in front of a bus... Nicci, 27
Las Vegas, NV USA Too late...I think he already is! Tracy, 24
Ocean City, NJ USA Well...I'm not married anymore, but if I were to remarry (which I doubt) I would pretty much like my spouse to be my equal in intelligence and looks. Tam My spouse IS more attractive than me. I am smarter, but not by much. So, realistically, I could care less whether my spouse is smarter OR more attractive as long as we get along and love one another. Doug2, 29
Overland Park, KS USA No, I would not like to know if she was smarter than I. I believe a mairage is a union between two. Whatever she is she is. Just as long as we can agree to have a simmilar value structure. A woman can be beautiful in many ways. I can't judge that. Christopher, 28
San Mateo, CA USA I'm pretty sure she is, but then it's pretty hard to judge, what with the whole hetero thing and all. Alias Irrelevante I think smarter. I don't consider myself bright but more street smart. And you can't really get anywhere and not have some brains or someone to help that does. Stephanie, 25
TX USA He is both. If he were any smarter they'd have to lock him up somewhere... and as for the attractive thing, it's all in the eye of the beholder anyway... so it doesn't really matter. Fisch, 47
Preston, CT USA About the looks, it doesn't matter. Outward appearance isn't important to me as long as the person isn't downright ugly. I married my husband because when you look in the dictionary under "good", you will find Bill's picture. I don't know about the smart part. Bill is smarter than me in many respects but I have more 'street smarts' (common sense) than him which makes me seem smarter. Reba, 50+
Silver Spring, MD USA He already is. Laura, 37
Lowell, MA USA Smarter yes, more attractive i dont care. Talia, 25
Stamford, CT USA Why would I have any right to wish my spouse more or less intelligent or attractive than he is? Why would I limit his character to enhance mine? Jill, 61
Saylorsburg, PA USA I wouldn't mind either as long as they were not accompanied by arrogance or cruelty. Strange though, I would mind a spouse much less attractive and much less intelligent than myself. I very much believe in finding others who are at my own level. Felicia, 36
Lowell, MA USA Probably more attractive than me Brad, 21
Sydney AUSTRALIA Not like excessively so, but yes a bit. But it's ok if he's not. Triana, 29
Austin, TX USA I think a marriage of equals is always a good thing... but if she loves me, then I suppose it doesn't really matter. Jeremy, 14
Highlands Ranch, CO USA No, and no. I have to be as much as a challenge to my spouse. I feel like my boyfriend and I are well-matched in both departments. I don't feel like any one of us is intellectually superior to the other. As for looks, I think he's the handsomest guy in the world, and he thinks I'm the prettiest girl he's ever seen. That's all that matters. He's probably in reality a snot-covered ogre, and I'm a crusty old hag. Cancer, 20
NYC, NY USA I can only hope so. Ryan, 29
Morton, IL USA I would like my spouse to be on more or less the same level as me as far as intelligence goes, but would not mind if they were more attractive. I would not want them to be excessively attractive, though. But for them to be a little more attractive would be great. Johanna, 18
OK USA