When we were growing up, my family seemed to talk all at the same time and no one listened. We still have that trait when we get together as a family now but we do listen to all the conversations going on but we keep an ear out for the important news and will stop to give our opinion. It is amazing but we have developed a talent for talking and listening at the same time.

KarenNJ, still 25
Milltown, NJ  USA

That depends. I think I tend to listen more, though.

Jeremy, 14
Highlands Ranch, CO  USA

If I had to pick one it would be listen more.

Laney
TX  USA

It depends on who I'm with, I guess. The more comfortable I feel with a person, the more talkative I am.

Tam

I hate being the centre of attention and therefore would much rather listen to someone speaking than actually being the one that people are listening too. So I would be the listener.

Brad, 21
Sydney  AUSTRALIA

Nine times out of ten, I listen more, especially if we're including random conversations with whoever -- small talk, shooting the shit, et cetera. If I've got something to say, I'll talk. The larger a group, the more superficial the conversation tends to be, which means I'm less likely to have anything to say -- so the folks who know me mostly from large groups think of me as quiet, and the folks who know me one-on-one or from small groups think I never shut up.

Bill, 27
New Orleans, LA  USA

Listen.

Firelady, 24
Frisco, TX   USA

I'm more of a listener but I will speak my mind when appropriate or when the conversation lags.

Doug2, 29
Overland Park, KS  USA

I tend to listen more than talk.

Kyle, 16
OH  USA

I try to make it fifty/fifty, but it depends on the person with whom I am conversing. If it is my grandson, he does ninety percent of the talking.

Jane, 62
West Linn, OR   USA

Both. But I do have a tendancy to interrupt. :(

Sarah Jane, 15
Preston, CT   USA

talk--I'm a terrible listener. And I love talking about myself. :)

Cancer, 20
NYC, NY   USA

It depends on the person, and what we happen to be talking about.

Nicci, 27
Las Vegas, NV USA

These days I'm usually more of a listener than a talker.

Jill, 61
Saylorsburg, PA  USA

It depends on who I am talking to and what we're talking about. I'm both though, a good listener and a good talker!

Tracy, 24
Ocean City, NJ  USA

I listen more, but I have a problem when I have a fellow listener to talk to. Usually people who listen want to have control of the conversation. So when we talk they think I am trying to take control of the conversation. Then they get imediately defensive. I just wish to have a good conversation.

Christopher, 28
San Mateo, CA   USA

Neither. I usually let the other person talk while my mind either starts focusing on whether or not I'm paying attention or searches for their name.

Alias Irrelevante

Listen, i guess.

Talia, 25
Stamford, CT   USA

I have always been a talkative person with people I know.

Reba, 50+
Silver Spring, MD  USA

both

Melodi, 19
Gahanna, OH   USA

I'm a listener.

Judy, 62
Easton, KS   USA

Depends on the situation. A work and in professional settings talk.  In social settings listen. In personal situations, equal.

Felicia, 36
Lowell, MA   USA

Depends. When I'm with my friend Staci, I tend to talk more. I'd like to think that with my husband it goes both ways (actually, I'd like to think it goes both ways with a lot of my friends), and when I'm in a group of people I tend to not talk at all because I'm afraid of interrupting. There are many nuances in the world that can affect how much I talk.

Karen, 22
Ames, IA   USA

It really depends on the situation. I think of myself as a good listener... but do like to offer input as well. Otherwise, it wouldn't really be a conversation, right?

Fisch, 47
Preston, CT   USA

I probably talk more than I listen.

Laura, 37
Lowell, MA    USA

I have this thing my friend Jonny calls the "Rule of 5". I'm totally talkative in small groups. You get 5 people together and ZIP. I'm quite. I never speak. It's really weird. I don't know why I do it. I just don't feel the need to talk, I would rather just listen.

Triana, 29
Austin, TX   USA

I definitely try to listen more than talk, but not sure I always succeed. Once heard, God gave you two ears and one mouth, use them in that proportion.

Kevin, 35
Sugar Hill, GA  USA

Depends who I'm taking to and what we're talking about. If someone just wants an ear that will listen, I'm more than glad to provide it. If someone comes seeking advice, then I talk.

Hikaru, 19
PA  USA

I am a yapper! Unfortunately so is everyone else in my family, so we all talk at once!

Janet, 44
E. Brunswick, NJ  USA

I usually do more talking.

Ryan, 29
Morton, IL   USA

My entire family was born talking. We can't shut up. And we all married quiet people. It's scary when we're all together.

Laura, 37
Lowell, MA   USA

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