March 12, 2004





Would you have a lover somebody you wouldn't have as an employee?

The syntax is off on this question, but I think I understand it. The qualities that I'd want in a lover are not the same qualities that I'd want in an employee. The two are separate issues. And of course, I would not have an employee who was also my lover.

Laura, 39
Lowell, MA USA

No. Proximity is proximity.

Jill, 61
Saylorsburg, PA USA

Yes. The reverse is also true. The criteria by which such relationships are chosen are completely different, in my mind.

Felicia, 38
Lowell, MA USA

yes... I might not have someone as an employee because they didn't have the right qualifications or skills, but that would be irrelevant in bed ;)

Alice, 23
Wincehster UK

Sure. I am not necessarily looking for the same qualities.

Janet, 46
E. Brunswick, NJ USA

If I were a manager, my employees would be programmers. I wouldn't limit myself to programmers for lovers, though. My husband was an accountant. If you mean would I have a lover who lied on his resume or had bad references or just seemed like someone who couldn't cooperate with others, then, no I probably wouldn't.

Cathie, 54
Novi, MI USA

It would depend on the reasons I wouldn't have the man as an employee. If they involved integrity or antisocial behavior, then I certainly wouldn't have him as a lover. If, however, it was his technical skills that disqualified him as an employee, that would not affect my judgment of him as a potential lover.

Jane, 63
West Linn, OR USA

Absolutely. In fact I think it's better that way.

Alias Irrelevante

Well, yes. I don't know if I'd have my husband as an employee, because then I'd become his evil boss and he might not like me very much. However, it's not at all that he's unhirable. He
really tries to do his absolute best at work, and that's a great quality for an employee.

Karen, 23
Ames, IA USA

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