November 26, 2003





Are alimony laws sexist?

Don't get me started on this. The whole concept of alimony is absurd, in my opinion.

Fisch, 47
Preston, CT USA


Keri-Jade, 23
Brampton, Ontario CANADA

*shrug* I don't know. I've never been involved in alimony.

Karen, 24
Ames, IA USA

If alimony laws are applied only for the benefit of one sex, they are sexist. If both sexist have a right to alimony under certain conditions, then there is no discrimination

Jill, 61
Saylorsburg, PA USA

Yes and so's the draft.

Alias Irrelevante

Surely that depends on how the alimony laws are written. There is nothing sexist is providing money for a spouse who has curtailed education, left the world of paid employment, or made career sacrifices whether for the sake of the home and children, or for enabling the other spouse to pursue a more demanding career.

Jane, 63
West Linn, OR USA

yes because mostly only men have to pay them

Melodi, 19
Gahanna, OH USA

As far as I know, alimony is based on the financial standing of each party and to what extent a divorce will adversly affect one party over the other. If men on average end up paying more alimony than women it is more likely the result of an imbalance workplace compensation. Of my married family and friends, most of the husbands seem to make at least a third to double what the wives do. Is that sexist?

Felicia, 37
Lowell, MA USA

NO. I think it is important if someone can stay home and raise their children. And if one person does that and puts their career on hold, and the marriage dissolves, then they should be compensated for their time

Janet, 46
E. Brunswick, NJ USA

i would say that nowadays they are a little sexist but they didnt start out like that. they come from a time when women truly needed it. there werent that many women in the work force and women didnt have high paying jobs that could support themselves and kids. nowadays though women have fought for equality and i think it would nice and funny to see a woman paying alimony.

alimony makes sense to me for a housewife or househusband. but there should be a limit. just because that person never had to work in the marriage doesnt go for when the marriage is over.

the marriage is over so all roles and situations involved in the marriage are now over. life goes and things change. alimony should last for the rest of someones life. i think there should be a
max of like 3 years. alimony should not be some extravagant amount either it should be just enough for that person to get by which gives them incentive to get their lives together if they want something more for themselves or so they arent homeless when the limit is up.

i think the alimony laws do need to be changed. two people who were working while they were married do not qualify for alimony. who ever gets custody of the kids gets child support and thats all. alimony comes in when there is a housewife or househusband. thats it.

i have no sympathy or cares for other situations. people in this world have regular lives where they struggle for what they want. no one gets a free ride if i have anything to say about it.

i dont care if the husband or wife is a millionaire. alimony should be just enough to get by. while the person is getting alimony they could be going to school or starting a business to support themselves.

ingrid, 22
Stockton, CA USA

It seems that there is precedent for alimony laws being applied to both men and women, so I'd say now. At least in the US.

Laura, 38
Lowell, MA USA

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