November 27, 2003





How often do you visit gravesites?

Pretty much never. Once a year or so we go to the cemetary to feed the geese, but that's about it. I'd like to go visit my grandpa's grave sometime, though.

Karen, 24
Ames, IA USA

I visit my mother's gravesite about once every four months or so. Most of the people I've lost who were close to me are buried in my home state which makes visiting difficult.

Fisch, 47
Preston, CT USA

Very rarely. For me, the essence of the people I have loved does not lie with their physical remains.

Jane, 63
West Linn, OR USA

usually around the holidays or close to the person's birthday

Melodi, 19
Gahanna, OH USA

Of people I know: a couple times a year. Otherwise we have a couple of very photogenic graveyards in town and we're not too far from Sleepy Hollow Cemetery in Concord where the writers are. I still haven't been to Martha's Vineyard to see John Belushi, that's something I want to do soon.

Alias Irrelevante

Not really. I prefer to remember the deceased through pictures and memory.

Felicia, 37
Lowell, MA USA

The graves of my parents and my son are all far away.

Jill, 61
Saylorsburg, PA USA

Whenever I'm searching for a record or whenever my mom or grams wants to go.

Keri-Jade, 23
Brampton, Ontario CANADA

About once a year, mostly to make sure that the gravesites don't look too shabby. I don't need to go for myself, since I'm pretty much at peace with the fact that my loved ones are gone. I certainly don't need to go for them, because it doesn't make any difference to them.

Cathie, 53
Novi, MI USA

Every birthday of the deceased, though most of my dead relatives are buried too far away to visit much.

Aly, 17
Cardiff UK

At this point, every couple years I'll visit gravesites, no specific ones, just interesting looking cemetaries.

Ryan, 29
Riedlingen GERMANY

Never ... I wander through a graveyard on the way to uni though, if that counts?!

Cardiff UK

Everytime I go home to NJ, I visit my parents -- probably 4 or 5 times a year. I usually drag a few of my siblings along with me.

Laura, 38
Lowell, MA USA

i dont visit gravesites and i probably never will. i dont plan on going to any funerals either. i dont know many people who have died and no one close to me has died yet.

even if someone close to me died why would i go the the gravesite? i dont see the point.

i dont want to go talk to a stone. people who are dead are dead to me. i wouldnt even go to the funeral. i dont feel like seeing a corpse. the person that was in the corpse is there no more and i can deal with that without having nightmares about some dead body.

i understand that some people need to visit a gravesite and talk to them and do things as a remembrance. thats fine for them. i will not forget a person who died and i practically live in my mind so i will always reminisce and stuff. i dont see a need for it. maybe one day i will try it out. it could turn into a getaway for me.

then again maybe not.

ingrid, 22
Stockton, CA USA

Not very often. Maybe once or twice a year. My parents are buried close to my house - so distance is not the excuse. I just do not find any comfort in going there.

Janet, 46
E. Brunswick, NJ USA

Yesterday / Tomorrow